Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Best Friends/Worst Enemies

Lukas and Max constantly are at each other, teasing, wrestling, fighting, playing and taunting each other. They have rare moments (like the picture) when they are in harmony with one another and everything is quiet. Usually Max is screaming b/c Lukas is chasing him and Lukas is grabbing something out of Max's hands. I try hard to teach them to be nice, to share, to play, to ask nicely, to be soft...but to no avail. It is very disheartening. I know brothers fight, but I just want to see Lukas protect Max and Max look up to Lukas and want to be like him. Instead, it's everyone fen for themselves. As soon as I leave the room, there is screaming. Then I have to come in and guess who did what and assign some time outs. It's rough. I love my boys and I want them to be best friends. I just hope that as they get older, they will realize that it's actually fun to have a brother around to play with. Does this sound like anyone else's kids? And I am so tired of getting after them. They are draining my energy...

7 comments:

Natalie said...

I love that picture. Well I have been wanting another baby so Karson would have someone to play with because he's terrible at sharing, taking turns, etc. I guess you're telling me having another one won't solve that problem ha ha ha. Someday they will be best friends.

Windy said...

it was when Kylee turned 3 that her and Carter became so close. They still fight and compete with one another but now that Carter can understand what Kylee is trying to communicate with him it makes it easier...although with my kids it was a little easier when they were younger because they like different toys...it'll be interesting with the girls as they grow older to see how they interact because they play with the same toys..Hopefully I am making sense. Don't worry some day they will be the best of friends. I love your kids!!!

Kimberly said...

Oh, you're so not alone! My boys will be playing quietly, and then, out of the blue, one throws a toy at the other one, or one is tackling the other one. Sometimes it's hard to tell if they are having fun or picking on each other and need help. If you find the answer, let me know.

Tyler and Julia said...

What a cute picture, I love it! :) Our two little ones love each other dearly, but when it comes to sharing toys, time with the parents, and other things, they fight, push, shove, hit and scream. My older sister & I were at each other's throats all the time too when we were young. But then we have also made some cherished memories together, and she is not only my sister, but she has become one of my dearest and most caring friends. My mom reminded us that friends will come and go in our lives, but that we would have each other for all eternity, and that we needed to love and serve one another. Hang in there JaNece; your boys may fight, but I promise you that one day they will realize how fortunate they are to have each other, just as my sister & I have learned over the years. (Wow, this is a LONG comment). :)

Bkay said...

Love the photo! My sister and I fought like cats and dogs when we were young. Now we are best of friends. Nothing can come between us. I think it takes some hard times to strengthen those bonds...so I think you have good things coming your way! You are a wonderful mom. Keep up the good work.

Jyl said...

Hahah, Yes one day they will rely on each other so much. I think Crew and Ryde will be that way, but I havent yet experienced too much of that because Skylar is so "Motherly" she just treats Crew like a baby! But anyway, This is a great picture JaNece! Cant wait to see you!

audrey said...

Janece you just recapped my two older boys! I wish I had some reassuring words for you! It is so true, "best friends, worst enemies" I really have no advice, only this.... As my boys got older, I started ignoring alot more. Yes they were both crying and hitting and kicking but they work through it quickly. After all they are boys!