Wednesday, June 9, 2010

The Ugly Truth

I am constantly struggling with myself. {If only I could be a few sizes smaller, or have tan skin. If only my clothes were cuter. If only I could have better style or drive a nicer car.} But the thing is, I already have so much to be grateful for (a great husband and kids, health, a house, a car to drive, clothes to wear, food to eat). Who says I have to look a certain way or drive a certain car? I think too many people compare themselves to others and have an unrealistic view of life and how they fit into it. I am as guilty as they come. I fall into that trap and want it to stop. I have been so grouchy lately. Maybe it's because I'm on my second week of the South Beach Diet (no sugar or carbs or fruit--yeah, life is tough) or maybe it's because I just had a baby and my hormones are still out of whack. Whatever my excuse is, I want to pledge to myself and the world that I will just stop this nonsense and love me for me. So I will quit comparing and just love me! :) I love me because I am a good person, I care about others and I absolutely LOVE chocolate chip cookies!!! There I said it. It's out there. Now, you try.

8 comments:

Christiansen's said...

I am so there with you. I have been in the same slump these last few weeks and I was actually thinking about blogging about it too (maybe I still will :) ), except for I don't have the excuse of just having baby or being on a no sugar diet. I think it is so interesting how we all can do this to ourselves, because the truth is I think you are on the top of everyone I know that has so much natural beauty. I always think you look beautiful, anytime I see you. I actually hate people like you that I see can be in there pajamas and still look beautiful, I have to put some hard work into hiding my acne and fixing my mess of a hair and I still will never be close to your beauty. But you are so right that is now what life is about. I just have to remind myself that everytime I see myself in a mirror :)

Dibble's said...

JaNece, you are darling. It's true, we need to focus more on what we have rather than what we don't have. I'm going to try to do that too! Thanks for the inspiration!

Roth Family said...

I have grouchy too lately about the same stuff. I have trying to figure out how to "love" myself. I have to figure it out soon!

Mindy said...

You are awesome. And brave. And beautiful!!! I love you so much JaNece! I'm so glad you love you too. :) Thanks for the better perspective that I want to have too! And thanks for inspiring others around you. You don't just make yourself better, but those around you too. How did I get so lucky to be your sister???!

Ashley said...

Great post JaNece. I was thinking so negatively about myself today as I tried on all of my pre-pregnancy clothes and felt like a fat lard because they didn't fit. All I could see in the mirror was the things that I didn't like about myself. So here's to trying to love myself, because I would take this momma pooch any day to get my kids!

JT, Carly, Boston, Jocelyn and Snuggles said...

Thanks JaNece. I needed to hear that. I am Terrible at this. I look at all the women in our neighborhood and I think they are so much prettier than me, their houses are cleaner, their cars are much nicer, their children are perfect and I think I am a mess. I have to learn to be content with me and what I have. You are beautiful and amazing and one of those women I envy... although I am going to also try and stop the envy and just be more content. Thanks.

anniebobannie said...

I too struggle with this! I think we all do! I am trying to just be healthy instead of a certain size or weight. As long as I am getting some activity and eating right, I have to be happy with who I am and where I am. You are awesome JaNece! You are truly someone I admire and have ALWAYS looked up to. You are beautiful, faithful, kind, caring, outgoing, and compassionate. You gotta give yourself a break! You just had a baby!!! It took nine months to get those pounds, it should take at least that time to take it off! Don't stress you are beautiful!!! Love ya! Annie

Tyler and Julia said...

JaNece, I just LOVE you & you have no reason to feel bad about yourself at all. You're on the South Beach diet? Wow, I tip my hat off to you! I absolutely have to have carbs and meat in my diet or I would go NUTS! I know it's hard to not compare yourself to others. This is exactly what Satan wants all of us to do. He knows just as well as the Lord that if we feel bad about ourselves because we don't look a certain way, dress a certain way, drive a certain type of car, have a certain number of shoes in our closets, or whatever (btw I am guilty of all of these things on this little list), it has the possibility of destroying us. You're a strong, faithful woman and I'm sure everyone who reads your blog will agree with me!